The Do’s and Don’ts of Reaching Out to Connectors

In a network-driven world, connectors are the bridges between your brand and your next big opportunity. Whether you're a startup, freelancer, or growing business, knowing how to reach out the right way can be the difference between being ignored—or embraced. Here’s a quick guide to the do’s and don’ts of reaching out to connectors on Pigeonhire or any other platform.

1. DO: Personalize Your Approach

Nobody likes a cold, generic message. Take the time to understand who the connector is, what they care about, and what communities they’re active in. A simple reference to something they’ve done or said goes a long way in showing that your message isn’t just a copy-paste. Instead of: “Hey, I need help connecting with a few communities.” Try this: “Hi [Name], I noticed you’ve been active in early-stage founder spaces. I’m working on a mental wellness platform for remote teams and would love to connect with similar communities through you.” 🚫 DON’T: Lead With a Transaction Connectors aren’t sales reps they’re people who curate relationships, trust, and value. If your first message is purely about what you want, you’re likely to get scrolled past. Avoid pushing your product or campaign upfront. Lead with mutual benefit, collaboration, or simply appreciation.

2. DO: Keep It Clear and Concise

Your message doesn’t have to be long to be effective. In fact, the shorter and more to the point it is, the easier it is for connectors to understand how they can help. A good rule of thumb? One short paragraph, one ask. 🚫 DON’T: Assume Immediate Results Connectors often manage multiple conversations and communities. Don’t be discouraged if they don’t respond instantly. Instead of following up with pressure, follow up with patience or offer a way to make the process easier for them.

3. DO: Offer Value First

Even if you’re the one reaching out, ask yourself: How can I help this person, too? Maybe it’s visibility, collaboration, a helpful resource, or a shoutout. Offering something small signals that you’re here to build not just take. 🚫 DON’T: Ghost the Relationship Even if the connector doesn’t help you this time, thank them anyway. Stay connected. Relationships compound. Today’s contact could be tomorrow’s referral, partner, or even customer.

In Summary

Connectors are at the heart of the Pigeonhire ecosystem. Treat them like real humans (because they are), lead with authenticity, and focus on building not begging. If you approach it right, you won’t just make a connection—you’ll start a relationship that grows.

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